Stardew Valley Was Surprisingly Good Prep For Residing With My Companion IRL

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Relationships will be exhausting. And whenever you add in lengthy distance, that issue curve can ramp up even increased.

My girlfriend Lima and I was in a long-distance relationship. Now we reside collectively and are in a no-distance relationship. However up till that time, we might solely be capable of see one another for scheduled chunks of time each one or two months. Nonetheless, it wasn’t straightforward, but it surely was value it. What actually helped us although, was having one thing in frequent. And for us, we developed a mutual ritual of taking part in Stardew Valley collectively.

I attempted taking part in Stardew Valley on my own across the time when it first got here out on Swap in 2017. I grew up with Animal Crossing, and needed to offer this life sim a attempt – but it surely simply didn’t click on. I don’t know why, both. My buddies appeared to adore it, and the artwork model and gameplay appeared proper up my alley. However after sitting down with it for varied classes, I finally dropped it and moved on.

Stardew we have to?

Quick ahead a number of years. One factor I’m grateful for in my relationship is that video video games are a bonding expertise for each me and my associate. We grew up with video games, love video games, and infrequently play video games collectively. What’s significantly good is that we didn’t play all the identical video games– so we often introduce one another to new ones. I bought her to lastly play by all of Tremendous Mario Galaxy, and she or he gave me the braveness to choose up Darkish Souls once more. Ultimately, we beat Cuphead collectively throughout considered one of our prolonged visits, however when she flew again dwelling, we wanted one thing new to fill the void.

Lima had urged that we begin a farm collectively in Stardew Valley. I used to be open to the thought, however shortly remembered how that have went once I tried it alone. Whereas considerably hesitant, I agreed, however was pleasantly stunned to see that two gamers may play on-line collectively on the identical farm on the identical time. Thanks, ConcernedApe! You very effectively might have saved my relationship with that transfer.

And so started our life collectively on Texacago — a not-so-clever portmanteau of our separate places of Texas and Chicago. However in great Texacago, we lived collectively together with the likes of Shane, Linus, Harvey, and the gang.

Slowly however certainly, the sport took a maintain on me. I discovered the way to higher farm crops, noticed how a lot there was to discover within the caves, and bought to expertise the assorted backstories of Pelican City’s residents. I used to be hooked. And it was the proper substitution for distance once we couldn’t be collectively bodily.

Joint account

Nonetheless although, farming collectively ready me for dwelling collectively in methods I fairly frankly didn’t count on.

In Stardew Valley, you will have the choice to share funds with different gamers in your farm. I assumed this could be good, as we might at some point reside collectively ‘IRL’ and must price range issues accordingly. Basically, it is sound recommendation to not cover large purchases out of your associate, so when considered one of us would see the cash counter all of a sudden click on down, the opposite one would take notice. “Hey, what was that?” Uh-oh, I forgot to inform her I used to be shopping for an additional pig. Effectively, I higher catch some fish and make it as much as her.

We divided up our chores and obligations equally on the farm. Some days she would give attention to gathering objects to fill out the neighborhood middle, whereas I might be busy attempting to catch a gold star tremendous cucumber. Clearly this additionally helped us work collectively past our gaming classes. Some days it’s laundry day and dishes day on the identical time, however as we had discovered, it helps to divide and conquer. Hey it’s not as glamorous as taking on your grandpa’s farm but it surely’s a dwelling okay? It’s the little issues that preserve the spark alive.

We performed by a number of year-cycles whereas dwelling and farming collectively in Texacago, simply clocking in over 150 hours in co-op. As soon as we began to expire of content material, it was exhausting to not really feel slightly bit unhappy, seeing the sport that had helped preserve and strengthen our bond throughout the nation begin to dwindle in accessible experiences. We’d maximized our farm, made extra money than we knew the way to spend, and accomplished the additional content material on Ginger Island.

It’s good to realize it’s nonetheless there although, and that we are able to at all times go to again there collectively to look again on less complicated occasions.

Overdew reunion

Not lengthy after getting our fill of the sport, we had been lastly capable of shut the bodily distance.

Lima got here to reside with me in Chicago, and whereas our real-life shared-living expertise might embrace far much less mining for iridium ore, promoting pumpkins on the Stardew Valley Truthful, or ensuring we’re dwelling and in mattress by 2am or else, we already had some degree of expertise sustaining a digital dwelling place collectively, and sustaining a life in great Stardew Valley.

Plus, we even bought to cosplay as Emily and Shane on the native farmers marketplace for Halloween, which is an terrible lot just like the Stardew Valley Truthful when you concentrate on it. So whereas the sport might have ended, the expertise lives on.

And hey, now we’re greater than prepared for some sofa co-op in Haunted Chocolatier.

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